I recently listened to an audiobook [well who's got time to read a actual book these days] called ‘Life in Half a Second‘, written and narrated by Matthew Michalewicz, which I’d highly recommend to anybody and everybody.
Whilst the principles espoused in this book by Matthew certainly aren’t anything new that haven’t been said a million times in a million other ‘success’ books, I was particularly impressed by his natural style and genuine enthusiasm for life. So much so in fact, I actually felt inspired enough to attempt the obligatory ‘exercises’ that invariably accompany this genre of book.
Now, Matthew is quite convincing when he says that unless you attempt all the exercises in the order they are presented (before moving to next), then you’re not really committed to the necessary self-change and your desire isn’t strong enough to fully achieve your goals (this is paraphrased…probably very badly).
Again I’ve heard this from many other Success coaches in the past without arousing enough desire in me to actually attempt the exercises however, Matthew’s book has had a different effect for some reason. Maybe it’s because I associate with the way Matthew articulates and adds colour to these principles, or maybe it’s just because he was a successful body-builder whose idol was Arnold Schwarzenegger! Either way I’m inspired (or maybe frightened).
So with gusto I’ve taken on his challenges. However, you can probably guess what’s coming next: yes, I’ve fallen at the first (or rather second part of the first) hurdle. Matthew would be so disappointed and may even throw at dumbell at me to teach me lesson. Actually I’m sure he wouldn’t do that: he seems like a really nice guy.
Matthew’s first challenge, which can be found at his website, Life in Half a Second, is to post on social media your intention to complete all the challenges in the order they are presented; as, apparently, you’re more like to succeed in attaining your goals if you tell others what you intend to do. Makes sense.
So I consider this blog post completion of the first part of the first challenge. So far, so good; I can see Matthew nodding his head in approval; “Well done Dylan. You’re on your way, keep going.“
However, (it’s stumbling time) the second part of the challenge is to get a ‘Goal Buddy‘. A what? I thought.
Apparently a Goal Buddy is someone who is on a similar success or goal orientated path who can act as a motivator and supporter to you in achieving your goals and vice versa.
I suppose the idea is that you and your goal buddy would mutually agree goals and then set a date for when these would be achieved, keeping in contact to see how each other is progressing whilst offering advice and support when things go awry.
I think understand the principle, but I’m ashamed to say that I almost immediately gave up upon hearing this challenge. Who the devil could I get to be my Goal Buddy? A colleague? A Friend? A Sibling? None seemed appropriate for one reason or the other. I think my sister would have probably be a good choice (assuming she agreed), but she’s ‘distracted’ at the moment therefore I don’t want to bother her with my ‘Success challenge’.
Therefore in order not to risk an imagined reprimand (or beating!) from Matthew,I’ve decided to try and scale the full first hurdle in one go by making request for a (virtual) goal buddy in this post.
So, if anyone reading this has read (or listened to) Matthew’s books or is familiar with the Goal Buddy concept and would like to offer their services in return for services in kind from myself, please get in touch.
My current goals are associated with 1) 3D animation 2) music 3) finances 4) health & fitness with a long term goal of starting a business; however, I don’t think goal buddies necessarily have to have similar goals; therefore your goals could be completely different.
I’d love to hear from anyone who may be interested (just send me an e-mail). And if you are interested, but you’re just uncomfortable enough to be put off, ignore it and just do it. You’re not growing if you’re not a little bit uncomfortable, at least so says Matthew Michalewicz. And I believe him, he’s a bodybuilder after all and I’m sure he could beat motivation into me if I don’t do it myself; which I’m sure I can do, especially with the help of my goal buddy.
Looking forward to hearing from you.